Everyone has them; the proverbial voices in their head. And sadly, you can always tell who is listening to them and who is not.
Everyone had trials and hardships in their life to some extend. What we experience, what is happening to us, at any given time, is evaluated, stored and quite frequently gets rather distorted. Memories can become either better or worse than what they really were. This is neither good, nor bad. All that means is that one needs to be aware of it and understand that the head isn’t the right place to always draw conclusions from. Our brain is a magnificent data center that far outdoes any living creature on this planet; but that doesn’t make it right or correct. Knowing this is what will either make or break you.
I have tried to study different philosophies and read tons of books on all kinds of topics. I will always do that, until the day that I die. I have devoured every book I could find on different spiritual paths, religions, philosophies, quantum physics, astronomy, astrology, science, brain capabilities and everything in between and found, I still don’t really know a thing. But, I am in a much better position now to properly evaluate my responses, expectations, assumptions and theories and hence, control much better what I will do with them. I found that the voices are wrong; a lot!
Why would we waste our life believing the wrong stories, and worst of all, keep insisting that we are right, when we could simply decide in each and every moment, if this rabbit hole is going to lead us to a better, more productive and fulfilling life, or a miserable, confined and dissatisfied one. As I said, I don’t have all the answers, but I do find that no matter what I read, the answers are all very much alike and suggest:
What happens to us, who we are and where we are going, how successful we are and how far we get in life in our relationships at home and work, is a direct result of how we think and what we choose to listen to. Hence, all it takes to become the person I want to be is based on one thing only; making a decision!
I don’t have to fall down the hole of “what if” and “why can’t I.” Instead, I find myself more and more saying “I will be in the right place at the right time, because I am in control of my life and choose to do the steps that will get me where I desire to be.”
None of this is easy. None of this will ever come naturally to me, or most people. But it is well worth a try and “trying” for a while, well, a few years now, has proven that this works infinitely better than the voices in my head. I listen to my gut, or if you prefer the other term, my instincts. They are far more advanced than thoughts and emotions and give me the foundation to make informed decisions, versus hasty, irrational jumps into the unknown.
I don’t know where I read or heard it, but I have come to firmly believe in “we are what we think.” What goes on in our head controls our actions and responses and therefore shows to the world who we really are. At the end of the day I didn’t want to show some of the negative beliefs about myself to others anymore, because I didn’t want to believe or give any further power to the wrong hardwiring. I always wanted to be “awake” instead of wide asleep. Practicing mindfulness is making that happen; and with it, my life started to shift in ways that I never thought possible.
So, be awake, be mindful, be kind and passionate and drop the guild. You deserve everything you have ever dreamed of and more!
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agree with you 120%!! i never ignore my instincts…i have compromised on them sometimes and paid heavily for it!!!